Amongst all the exciting and fun things going on this summer I have hit a major low today. Although I have not yet posted about our fabulous summer thus far I had to put my feelings down today.
I have never had such a hard day as a mother as I did today. Maybe it's a combination of many things like simple house chores, piles of laundry, my procrastinated study and projects that are due soon, fast growing crazy weeds and yard work, feelings of guilt for trying to get all of these checklist type things done and not spending more time focusing on the children. What ever it is it sent me to a breaking point today. I honestly don't know if it was my fault or something else but my son was completely out of control today - so much as to say I didn't recognize him at all. He was so different and saying and doing crazy things. I seriously got to the point I didn't know what to do anymore and had to go into another room and cry for a bit. By the end of the day I was in tears with feelings of guilt, failure and all those horrible feelings that Satan wants us to feel and dwell on. Luckily my fabulous sister was here to help me and she did a terrific job doing all she could, I feel bad she had to see such a horrible side come out in me but I couldn't have done it without her. My loving husband also came to the rescue and after having dinner with my sister and mom I was able to get Rachael in bed while Aaron took Josh out for awhile. Then I went on a 30 minute run which felt so good. While running I was listening to my iPod, I have a few thousand songs on there (most of which I am not familiar with) and came across a song that hit me hard. I've listened to it over and over again, it made me feel so much better.
I have a passion for music and this one song couldn't have come at a better time.
Last night at Relief Society we had some great discussions with some amazing women. We spoke about feelings of guilt at home and how it is so easy to feel guilty for not having a clean home but yet you've spent the day teaching and playing with the children. But then if you spend all day cleaning you feel guilty for not being with the children more. AAAHhhh... it's so hard sometimes.
But once I have a chance to calm down and invite the spirit back in I feel peace that what I did accomplish that day was well worth it. If my kids know that I love them unconditionally and feel safe at home that is all that matters and once the love and faith is there everything else seems to fall back into place and we are all happier together.
I am so grateful for my husband and my children they mean so much to me. I literally spend every waking moment with my kids and wouldn't trade it for the world. Yes there are hard times and often I go to bed at the end of the day seriously wondering what I had accomplished but it's those little moments of joy that bring it all back together. Like tonight right before Aaron put Josh in bed he came up to me, gave me a huge bear hug and kiss, looked me in the eyes and said "I am sorry you had a bad day today mommy, I love you so much and want to be here with you, I am sorry I yelled at you..." and when Rachael's gorgeous blue eyes look up to me and she smiles so big; it just melts my heart and makes it all worth it!